A gendered arrangement in which men are able to fulfil their emotional needs while women, on the other hand, stay deprived, is spawned from this. In correlation to how some men behave, women are also afraid of intimacy but the major difference between the two genders is that women are more concerned with finding a partner regardless of how suitable they might be.

As a result, these men turn away from true love and value relationships in which they are able to be emotionally withholding (when and as they please) while still receiving love from another person. Many men, according Hooks, resort to violence in order to silence their partner as a way to avoid witnessing emotional vulnerability. Men are raised to be more fascinated with their sexual performance/satisfaction opposed to being capable of giving and receiving love. By definition, abuse and neglect are opposites of nurturance and care”. “We need to understand love as the will to nurture our own and another’s spiritual growth because love and abuse cannot coexist. In chapter one of her book, Clarity: Give Love Words, Hook claims that women make too much of love. In this way, women have little hope of pursuing happiness since they keep men around “to take care of all their needs when in reality, women are in a constant state of yearning, wanting love but not receiving it”. In Hooks’ view, women are blindsided since most men use psychological terrorism as a mechanism to make women feel lesser. In this paper, I will discuss how community (extended family, friendships, etc.) is just as important as the “couple” themselves or nuclear families because love only comes from painful truth-telling desire may depend on illusion, but outside sources have a perspective other than just the thrill of attraction love involves work and dedication, but going to work and making money have replaced the core values of love and community (a concept, says Hook, that should be reversed). In Hook’s book, men have a tendency towards sexist gender roles and “patriarchal thinking.” Her goal is to instrument social change through her viewpoint on love. Love can also have tremendous social effects as it is “crucial to our survival as a nation”. She tries to convince her audience how to return to the true meaning of love in order to live in a culture where love can flourish.

As a feminist cultural critic, Bell Hooks affirms that love is possible within American society despite today’s culture of narcissism and selfishness. Written in a didactic style, “All About Love” merges self-help with moral philosophy.

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